Petty Officer.
I've got some things bugging me. I know they're trivial, but they're bugging me. They are (in no particular order):
1. I'm miffed because I loaned quite a few things to someone and they came back with a majority of the items damaged, with not a word from the borrower. These are not items that I use on a regular basis, but you'd think if you loaned something to someone, it would come back in the same condition it left you.
2. I'm miffed because Eight has a friend that always calls Eight to play and then says "Oh, can I come to your house to play?" I don't want to be some crabby old mother but I just wasn't brought up that it's polite to do that. And I know the kid lives in this dinky apartment and it's not really that great and he does just want someone to play with but why does it always have to be at our house?
3. It REALLY bothers me when someone says "Can I ask you a favor?" I don't mind at all doing favors for people, but I wish they'd just flat out ask me instead of emailing me with only "favor" in the title or asking me that. Again, petty, but it just irritates the living bejeebus out of me. When I used to work retail people would come up and ask me "Can I ask you a question?" and I'd just laugh and say "Yep, you just did. Bye!"
Not the best attitude today, I know. I'm putting this out here to shame myself into having a better attitude.
And it's terrible, because we had such a great, long weekend. We saw a lot of friends and did a lot and we're lucky to be able to do so. And I'm still cranky. Hopefully my venting will get rid of this.
12 comments:
Vent away, it does help. I get miffed at some pretty miniscule things as well, minor petty things, but it just bugs me - so I vent at work or my friends house, and then I feel much better, more often then not they are in agreement w/me. Oh and by the way, I'm w/ you on all of those. :)
It definitely helps to vent. We all get miffed at things other people do.
I get miffed at myself for being miffed...
If that is all you get miffed about, then you are doing tremendous!! I don't think that any of those are unreasonable ... especially number one. That is just plain inconsiderate!
Better to vent then let these frustrations and percolate to a irritating bejeebus, simmer, boil and then eruption...what's the old saying about 'neither a lender nor borrower be'or something like that.
It's healthier to vent than explode.
That's Chief Petty Officer to you!
#1, that's just plain rude.
#2, i know it's a pain, but someday you will be glad that they are at your house instead of god knows where doing god knows what.
#1- I agree with everyone else - how rude. Let me guess - s/he won't be borrowing items from you again?
#2- I used to feel this way too until a friend told me that she wants her kids’ friends to come to her house so she knew what kinds of things they were doing and talking about. She even went so far as to stock her fridge and pantry with inexpensive, kid-friendly snacks to encourage visits. She pointed out that it keeps you in tune with the latest trends and your child is more likely to open up to you if you speak their language. Also, sometimes if a friend invites himself over, he might be trying to escape from a difficult family situation.
Still, it’s sometimes nice to have a moment of piece and not have your house sound like grand central station.
#3 I’m with you on this one too. It ranks right up there with the person who asks “how’s it going?” or the waitress that asks “how’s your meal?” without waiting for a response. The false-niceness used to catch my husband off-guard because they don’t do this in most European countries.
You know...I appreciate all the comments.
And I know the BEST thing for kids is to be home so you know what they're doing and who their friends are...it's just the calling to make plans and then at the last second saying "Oh, I'm coming over there."
Again, it's just me being petty. But I've gotten it off my chest and I feel MUCH better. I'm pretty sure I won't need to vent for a while longer, thanks everyone!
:-)
happy venting :)...that's what blogs are for. And I learned a new English word "miffed" :). Thanks for that.
And I can totally relate to what yo are writing. I suppose most of us can.
I liked it when you said "I get miffed at myself for being miffed... "! I have that too. There are those days that everything works on my nerves, that I am boiling over basically everything. But somewhere in my head, I know I am exaggerating, I know I am not really fair in snapping out at other people...and then I get even more irritated at myself and frustrated because I can't get rid of that feeling.
Venting helps, getting totally absorbed in some kind of activity helps, sleeping helps, ...
Have a nice day still!
Sometimes there is a fine line between being a doormat and being a bitch, at least to me. I never know when people are taking advantage or when I am overreacting. I don't think you are overreacting I would be miffed too.
There's nothing wrong with being cranky at all. (by the way - I just wanted to say that your blog is perhaps the most entertaining of any I read - not really sure why... I sense a kindred spirit at times)
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